Stress

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Depression

What is depression?

There is a difference between feeling low and being clinically depressed, how I hear you say, well let me explain.

Most people go through periods of feeling down, but when you’re clinically depressed you feel persistently sad for weeks or months, rather than just a few days.

They range from lasting feelings of unhappiness and hopelessness, to losing interest in the things you used to enjoy and feeling very tearful. Many people with depression also have symptoms of anxiety. So sometimes it can feel like your “get up and go, gets up and buggers off”.

Other symptoms of depression could include –

  • Continuous low mood or sadness 
  • Feeling hopeless and helpless 
  • Having low self-esteem  
  • Feeling tearful 
  • Feeling guilt-ridden 
  • Feeling irritable and intolerant of others  
  • Having no motivation or interest in things 
  • Finding it difficult to make decisions 
  • Not getting any enjoyment out of life 
  • Feeling anxious or worried
  • Having suicidal thoughts or thoughts of harming yourself

Half of the battle is understanding what is going on for you and that you are not alone there are people you can speak to and places you can go so you don’t feel alone in your struggle. People don’t tend to feel low for no reason and sometime it could be down to a medical issue so something completely out of your hands.

If you feel like your depressed the first point of call is go make an appointment at you GPs, this is what they get paid for so don’t ever feel like your wasting their time they want you to go to them this is what they trained for remember.

Lets look at this differently ok, if you broke your leg would you seek medical help ? if you had the flu or a chest infection would you seek medical help ?? IT’S THE SAME THING !! just because you cant see it, it doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist

What Can I do To Help Myself??

1) Don’t bottle things up – find someone to talk to about how you are feeling.
2) Make sure you get plenty of exercise and plenty of fresh air. You will find that even if you do a quick walk every day and a short period of other exercise each day you will start to feel physically and emotionally stronger and more able to cope.
3) Make sure you eat a healthy balanced diet – eat little and often and don’t skip meals. If you are not eating properly you will feel more depressed and listless.
4) Try and keep busy – to keep your mind occupied.
5) Do things you enjoy to relax, treat yourself and take care of yourself.
6) Try and get to bed at a regular time. If you find it difficult to sleep listen to the radio/TV/read and you may find you drop off to sleep more easily.
7) Don’t resort to unhealthy ways of dealing with your problems like drinking, taking drugs, cutting, eating disorders.
8) Ask for help when you need it.
9) Try to stop thinking in a negative way – when you think a negative thought try and replace it with a positive one.
10) If you need a hug ask someone you trust – this can make you feel that someone really does care how you are feeling.

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Men & Mental Health

Men & Mental Health

While mental illnesses affect both men and women, the prevalence of mental illnesses in men is often lower than women. Men with mental illnesses are also less likely to have received mental health treatment than women in the past year. However, men are more likely to die by suicide than women, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. Recognising the signs that you or someone you love may have a mental disorder is the first step toward getting treatment. The earlier that treatment begins, the more effective it can be.

I was made aware recently by a male family member however they don’t feel this way but he could see how sometimes men may feel the fear of people perceiving them as weak if they are open about there struggles around mental health. Some of the statements over the years like “grow a set of balls” and “Man up” come to mind all these add to the stigma around men and mental health. What some people tend to forget is even though they have testicles they are human too!

We need to let the guys know that their feelings matter too, think about it this way what if a guy said to you that you should woman up? That your feelings aren’t as important as a mans oh wait does this sound familiar like before when woman weren’t allowed to vote, we argue that women should be on the same pay as men yet when it comes to mental health we set ourselves apart again. Ask yourself this are we stuck in the dark ages when it comes to men and mental health well surprise-surprise it’s the 21st century and men matter too lets look and mental health equal rights because regardless of gender mental health affects us all at some point in our lives.

Ways you can help yourself

  1. Talking to someone you trust, a close friend or family member, maybe even your doctor/therapist
  2. Considering why you find it uncomfortable asking for help and whether those reasons are actually stopping you from getting the support you need
  3. Reading more about mental health and the varied guidance and advice that is easily accessible (online articles maybe?)
  4. Maybe consider what are your weapons in this fight (i.e. the ways you combat poor mental health) – it could be anything from regular exercise to spending time with friends (for me, creative writing helps to lift me during the darker days)
  5. Finding stories and case studies that will help you understand what other men have been through
  6. Getting involved in the great campaigns and activities that raise awareness of mental health – look campaign State of mind which is about men’s mental health which will give you a sense of empowerment

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Self-Care

What is self-care?

Self-care is any activity that we do deliberately in order to take care of our mental, emotional, and physical health. Although it sounds simple enough, in theory, it’s something we very often overlook as life gets in the way. Good self-care is key to improved mood and reduced anxiety. It’s also key to a good relationship with yourself and others.

Although self-care means different things to different people, having a checklist can be really beneficial:

  1. How about creating a “no” list, with things you know you don’t like or you no longer want to do. Examples might include: Not checking emails at night, not attending gatherings you don’t like, not answering your phone during lunch/dinner- as what you want is important to look at it this way would you force some to do something they didn’t want to do?
  2. Promote a nutritious, healthy diet. You cant run a car on no fuel, can you?
  3. Get enough sleep. Adults usually need 7-8 hours of sleep each night. Sleep deprivation is not good and this can definitely impair mood and thought processes
  4. Exercise. In contrast to what many people think, exercise is as good for our emotional health as it is for our physical health. It increases serotonin levels, leading to improved mood and energy. In line with the self-care conditions, what’s important is that you choose a form of exercise that you like! I am a big believer that physical health impacts mental health.
  5. Follow-up with medical care. It is not unusual to put off checkups or visits to the doctor. This is to also eliminate and medical issues that may be impacting your mental health for instance hormone changes can impact mood
  6. Use relaxation mindfulness and meditation exercises and/or practice meditation. You can do these exercises at any time of the day. There are apps and worksheets that we as therapists provide
  7. Spend enough time with your loved ones. This can build on confidence and self-esteem
  8. Do at least one pleasurable activity every day; from going to the cinema, to cooking or meeting with friends. If you’re creative maybe painting, pottery, knitting or even something as simple as singing this all adds to endorphin release
  9. Look for opportunities to laugh! They do say laughter is the best medicine
  10. Set up a 15-day self-care routine and see how you feel before and after. And never forget: As with everything, self-care takes practice!

Also remember YOU’RE IMPORTANT TOO!

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Anxiety

What is Anxiety

Anxiety, depression and worry could show itself in physical ways as well as mentally , physical health conditions like stomach problems, back pain, heart disease or skin conditions as a result of stress and anxiety. You could feel overloaded by demands being placed on you maybe in work, personal life, relationships or the impact of a past event that has stayed with you, or your reaction to being put under pressure is to feel upset, worried or unable to cope, you might describe yourself as feeling stressed but its much more than that.

Working on mindfulness and meditation could have an impact on you not feeling stressed or overloaded, Relaxation is key ( I’m not saying go hug a tree!). Allowing yourself to be compassionate towards yourself is also another element of moving forward as we know we can be very harsh on ourselves ever heard the saying “we are our own worst enemy” point in question!

Ok lets look at Anxiety and negative thoughts, we have all been in that position where we have been thinking negative about either a situation or even a person where we have no clue where its come from but as far as your concerned this is fact or is it …….

These thoughts become habit, without even knowing it we create a new negative cycle and this just like a drug is like an addiction that we cant get away from and before we know it its taken over. Let me tell you something I’ve been there. That thought that your not good enough, even if you try your best it wont work, I’m not important so I’m not going to burden someone else with my problems and my personal favourite I’m not important.

These thoughts become a habit overtime without us even realising so, just to prove a point answer these questions , when you get dressed in the morning…..

  • What sock do you put on first?
  • What leg do you put into your jeans first?
  • What shoe do you put on first?

See creature of habit just like the rest of us!

Also it’s the same with your thoughts they become a habit whether negative or positive everyone is similar but its about breaking that cycle, creating new positive habits. So I want you to remember two things

1) It’s ok not to be ok but what’s not ok is being stuck there – it’s ok to ask for help
2) You’re important too!

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Covid-19

The Trauma of Covid-19

It’s no secret that Covid-19 has brought on a fair share of questions and worries. In fact, the situation we are currently living through is one that has left many people dealing with trauma. This article will be looking at the trauma you may have experienced during the lockdown as well as how you can get back up from it.

Uncertain Times

There has never been a time before that has brought as many questions as Covid-19 has. Not only this, but this pandemic has brought uncertainty that was merely a fictional possibility in the past, something we’d see in movies like 2012 or The Day After Tomorrow. Now, it’s almost impossible to book a vacation without fearing that we won’t be able to make it back without having to quarantine, and a second wave is on the horizon. These uncertain times can create trauma in a person as having no control over the events that follow is stress and anxiety-inducing.

No More Stability

In the United Kingdom, we are becoming more and more aware of the recession that is coming our way (in fact, we are already in one). Because of this, most of us are rather worried about our jobs. We aren’t sure we’ll be able to make it until Christmas and this lack of stability is extremely stressful. This is another form of trauma that you may be experiencing, alongside feelings of depression that have unfortunately been on the rise throughout the UK. The life we were used to up until now feels like it may be gone forever. The cafés are closed, or close at 3 PM in London’s city center– unseen before–, the pubs are half empty and the housing market is cheaper than ever before. Yet this all screams uncertainty. So, who can blame you for fearing the current circumstances and feeling traumatized by this rather swift change of events? Although this may be a bleak perspective of life, there is a positive side to all this– you can do something about it.

Indeed, trauma doesn’t mean that you will struggle with this forever. Instead, you can take care of this trauma by reestablishing control and a routine where you can. If you feel like you’ve lost control and like the uncertainty and instability are too much, look at what you do have control over and focus on this, even better, engage in self-care! This should be a good start to feel like you are gaining control over your life once again. 

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Overthinking ?

The Effects of Worrying and Overthinking

With the Covid-19 situation, I have witnessed numerous individuals going through periods of overthinking and worrying. I have already written about anxiety, and how Covid-19 has created trauma for many, however, overthinking is just as common, unfortunately. This article will give you an idea of what overthinking is, why we worry too much, and how we can stop ourselves right in our tracks when we notice that we are overthinking and worrying too much.

What is overthinking?

The term overthinking is used to describe a psychological pattern in which an individual becomes fixated on an issue and does not take any time to process the information that is presented to them. Many people are guilty of overthinking at one point or another. There are a number of different types of overthinking, but the main type is when you begin to think that it makes sense to think about a particular issue obsessively rather than engaging with the information you have on hand. You might feel as if it is better to wait and see how things go before you make any decisions and end up thinking about the potential consequences obsessively. 

Worrying Too Much Is Bad for Your Mental Health

Worrying is a natural and normal thing, and it happens to everyone at some point. The thing that individuals often do not realize is that by worrying too much, however, they can actually be doing themselves a disservice. By worrying too much about the things they have no control over, you are increasing your level of stress and anxiety, two things that have negative impacts on your psyche and on your mental health. When you realize that you are the one making yourself overthink and worry about a problem, you can start to identify the source of this stress and can act on it. 

Take a moment to ask yourself a few questions. For example, is the problem and are the consequences as terrible as you think? Are you being rational about the situation, or is your reaction purely emotional? Don’t get me wrong, there is nothing bad about feeling emotions, that is normal. However, if you let them get over the rational side of things, you may begin to worry too much about things that really aren’t all that dramatic. This creates a vicious cycle in which you worry, then feel even more stressed about these worries, only to increase your stress further. Read more about what you can do to avoid the detrimental effects of overthinking here.

Do you feel like you overthink or are your worries taking over your daily activities? Reach out today for a free 15-minute consultation to hear more about what you can do to change this.